Category: Singles Spit Swap
Hi there,
I'm very single, and extremely shocked by the response i have had from sighted guys when i've said to them that i couldn't see, hoping someone here might be different.
what to say about me...
I have long brown hair and very dark brown eyes, about 5 3-5 in height, romantic, cuddly, gentle, sensitive, understanding, caring, kind, and very sentual when the time is right...
If your interested in getting to know me in hopes of maybe something more happening, please send me an email on here, guys only please, 21-26 years.
Look forward to and appreciate any responses
Pisces XX
Hello pisces_dreamer. This is Adam M. I am in Ottawa Canada. Your description is exactly the kind of woman I need, and perhaps I could be the right kind of guy for you. Unfortunately, our locations are very much distant, but if you're interested in contacting me, my user name is adam m, and my ID is 6748.
funny to hear a girl mention that they get a certain reaction from guys when it's revealed that they're blind. I wonder sometimes when you're introducing yourself to someone either threw phone or computer if it's necessary to even mention it at all! Myself I usually tell people on a need to know bases. Obviously if we meet somewhere they'll know. I where these glasses that are hard to miss, plus when I watch TV or read a computer screen I'm almost hugging the thing so it comes out eventually. I guess it depends if I think they need to know or not. If we're to meet it would be an issue perhaps. If we're to just be casual friends it could be different. I have to shake my head though when I read profiles on here and the blind thing is the first mentioned before anything else I might want to know. When someone does that I get the impression that maybe it was an issue in the passed with someone who might have been shocked or something.
I feel the same way thefalcon. For me, its on a need-to-know-basis. The blindness thing has gotten me shot down in many fascits of life. Jobs, relationships, doing activities with friends, even making friends. So I've learned not to reveal it until it is plainly obviously discovered, or there is some reason that it is absolutely necessary to be known.
i even feel stupid when it has to come up, like obviously if someone wants to send a picture, i tell them then, and im still liing because how can i see what they are writig?but thats another topic
Yes I've been guilty of that in a way. When I'd be emailing some people I ran in to either on skype or something I'd ask for a picture and once or twice I can sort of remember that the people felt awkward telling me they had no picture. Which I'd find out later it was because they were blind and that's totally ok. Or on skype I'd run in to people who'd ask why I had no web cam and I'd just say I was blind to shut them up. The truth is I'm on a work computer and I'm not allowed to put one on it. But just saying I was blind got them to go away. I'm sorry to hear that someone would be rejected because they told the truth. Even though I mentioned about a need to know bases you still shouldn't be put in a position where you feel you should not say otherwise. I really don't know why it's an issue with something like employment unless it somehow interferes with the job but as long as you can meet the work requirements it should be straight forward. Unless of course by hiring you maybe they feel they have to put in more effort whether it's transporting you around or some kind of training that they don't have, I don't see a problem. I would imagine some of you up in Canada might have problems with finding work since a big percentage of people not working are disabled. I'm assuming that it's that way there as it is here in my state and surrounding states too. For instants certain Canadian organizations help their blind with assistive technology and orientation and mobility training. Where as we don't have as much resources like that. Accept they do have the blind organization which serves pieces of the east coast but they're certainly a far cry to some of the assistive programs available in Canada where they don't have a work requirement or educational requirements. Here the state would give you a computer and other devices if you can prove that it's for work or school. Where as across the border they believe accessibility is a right. Also with dating I guess the blind thing can come up but at least if these are people threw the phone or internet you're trying to hook up with they come and go. Obviously if someone has a problem with your openly telling them of your disability then they would hardly be compatible.
Hi Thefalcon. You've got some good points. I've heard that down in the states, everything to do with state funding in the arena of disability requirements or accessibility devices must be justified through work or education. Up here, it is very much easier to get accessible devices through the government, iether funded in full or in part. I'm not sure why the employers aroundh here are so discriminatory, despite it being illegal. I guess there thought is, what the hell is he gonna do, and how is he gonna prove what we said to him on a telephone call? In other words, turning me down illegally and for an unjust reason is a better risk to take than to employ me and to face unknown obstacles and issues in their view. But I'll tell you one thing, it sucks bad.
A very high percentage of people not working are blind and disabled in my state and my neibering states. Sometimes the work that is available pay ridiculously low wages. Maybe sweat shop wages that one would expect in some third world country. The jobs are no better. Usually putting labels on soup cans or filling up crates for shipping, packing boxes, which obviously some of that work could be limited to someone who's homebound or unable to get around. Of course if one lives in the more quieter places away from big cities they're are more cut off as well. In the newspapers when the issue of employment crisis comes up it's always in relation to homeless people, drug attics, criminals or illegal aliens. Very little if any is ever mentioned about disabled people. As I've read, I've sometimes gotten the impression that they classify homeless, or some other social status as disabilities. Certainly give off an impression that they're minorities and thus news worthy. So there's a lot that isn't discussed in the media. When they also talk about an employment situation especially in a major city, they relate it to the affect it has on tourism. How the homeless affects people visiting and spending money. You won't usually hear about issues regarding disabled people unless it's a form of sorts with exclusive topics as such. Otherwise the main stream never addresses it or that is, I don't think I read too much about it.
You have a good point. The disabled are not regularly addressed in the media, and when ever we are, its plainly over dramatized, in the case of something good, as if to say "wow! despite his being disabled, he can play the guitar" or something stupid like that. And of course, as you say, when we need recognition, in the case of the high percentage of unemployment, its nowhere to be found.
And lol, we've really gotten off topic here... ha ha.
Hello for everyone's information, if you work in an National Industries industries for the blind agency, they are now required to pay minium wages. Also they are many new programs that will help blind people with skills and degrees move up. I have been on both sides, and so can speak about this issue. Look www.nib.org and see what new.
romantic, charming, cuddly sweetheart needed.
Well, if you can add, sexual, a best friend, loves to pillow fight spontaneously, and at times feistey in a cute way, you've got yourself a guy, hehe.
awww that's so sweet, cuddling is nice, :)